I hate mirrors. When I pass one, I cringe and do everything in my power not to look at myself or even catch a glimpse of my reflection. Although I don’t like mirrors, I do recognize their importance. If we don’t check our reflection from time to time, we could leave the house in a terrible state; with broccoli in our teeth, our clothing askew, we want to leave our homes looking somewhat presentable! The mirror helps us check on our outward appearance, ensuring our appearance will suffice.
For our physical appearance, inside our bodies, we have mirrors of sorts using technology. Equipment such as ultrasound and x-ray machines examine us from the inside out, allowing us to view an inward reflection that reassures us that we look okay on the inside.
Various types of reflection equipment offer practical ways to look at ourselves, making sure we are okay from the inside out. One grey area, where for many it gets a bit tricky, is checking on our emotional reflection. You can’t easily see your emotional reflection with your own eyes, nor examine it using an x-ray machine; feelings are a little harder to detect. They are easy to disguise or mask from others, and sometimes they are too painful to reflect on. We may get a glimpse of someone’s reflection through their actions, behaviours, or facial expressions – but it could be a facade! How do we accurately measure our mental health?
It takes a little more creativity to get the right reflection – it’s not as concrete as looking into a mirror or being scanned by an x-ray machine. An emotional check-up requires consideration of a different sort. It requires us to use a symbolic mirror to reflect on our day, our actions, our language, our choices, our friendships, and our feelings. Sometimes I cringe when I have to check on it. Like with my aversion to mirrors, I do everything in my power to avoid my emotional reflection.
What I do realize is that to truly transform I MUST face those reflections no matter how uncomfortable I am or how disappointed with my shortcomings I might feel. Cringing and turning away will not move me to transformation. Instead, I will sit in denial or ignorance preferring to remain as I am. I close myself off to the beautiful experience of actually experiencing the transformation. I cheat myself of the opportunity to celebrate the accomplishments of change because I never checked where I was before so I can observe how far I’ve come.
When we take the time to examine ourselves, we open up the possibilities. There are times when we are going to look and feel great, and then there are times when all we see is a mess. We may need to seek help, and that’s okay. Look for a practitioner, therapist, or medical doctor and start the conversation. Find resources or tools to help you get through those difficult times or help you stay in the positive longer. The Reset Zone App is a great resource; it’s like a little pocket mirror that you can carry around with you, to check and correct your emotional reflection! Right from your phone or tablet, you can access 1 minute pre-recorded, interactive, and engaging video sessions with expert practitioners who offer tools that may help you Reset when you need to.
Catching your reflection in a mirror doesn’t have to be a traumatic experience; we need a little reminder that the person we see in the mirror is worth our attention. When we take time to do a more in-depth observation beyond just what we see with our eyes, reflecting deeper inside to understand who we are looking at, how they feel and what they need, then we can get on the road to a healthier state of mind, body, and soul.
Kathie Weaver is the Director of Operations at Reset Zone. She is a published poet who has a passion for writing and public speaking, along with her desire to help others. Kathie has worked in the corporate world for over 25 years in Payroll, Benefits, and Human Resources. She now finds herself in a new and exciting career at Reset Zone!