Have you ever had that sinking feeling like you’ve forgotten something important? I lived with that feeling for quite a while after my daughter left for university. I was constantly checking and double-checking, convinced that I had forgotten something. My brain knew she lived away from home, off on new adventures, experiencing life, yet my heart had not made the connection. I was so confused; how could I feel so sad and happy at the same time?
What I was feeling is not abnormal; lots of other parents have felt similar emotions. For eighteen years, my identity was “Mom!” My job was to prepare her for the world, to give my tiny bird the flying lessons she needed to soar; to equip her to handle whatever life situations came her way. Now she was off in flight, her small wings flapping in the wind while I sat in the empty nest filled with an array of emotions as she disappeared into the distance.
In her book “Don’t Leave, Please Go!“, author Sara Dimerman chronicles her daughter Chloe’s first year of university from a mother’s perspective. It’s an easy read, full of everyday situations and lessons learned. Sara humbly and honestly captured those waves of emotion that parents and students go through as they head off to university for the first time.
Throughout their journey, Sara consistently encouraged her daughter to seek out resources to help move her through her emotions of loneliness, homesickness, and anxiety. As I read along, I kept wishing that the Reset Zone App had been available at that time. The Reset Zone App would have been perfect for helping Sara and Chloe through some of those challenging emotions. Sara listed one of her critical learnings after Chloe’s first week away as “To be on call 24/7. For the first week at least.” Coincidentally, Sara Dimerman is one of the Reset Zone experts currently available on the App. Reset Zone would have given Chloe 24/7 access to not only her mother but also to a variety of wellness experts right from her phone. Students don’t always have a support system like Sara created for her daughter. Some students don’t openly share their struggles with their parents, and some don’t know where to go for help or perhaps feel too embarrassed to seek it out.
The Reset Zone App is specifically designed to provide students with quick one-minute resources that help move them through those challenging emotions anytime they need it. An affordable monthly membership subscription gives students access to additional resources. It also allows users to save their favourite videos for easy access on or off-line. The App can be used proactively to help build emotional resiliency or reactively by choosing a session that best fits the current emotion.
As our little birds leave their nest, I’m grateful for resources, like the Reset Zone App, that is available for them when we can’t be. While reading Sara’s book, I realized what I was missing all that time was a piece of my heart. Sara nailed it on the head when she wrote, “How can you not cry when you’re leaving a part of your heart with them?” The sinking feeling of missing something important may not ever wholly dissipate, but at least I know that I am not alone. We are all doing our best to help transition our children through significant life changes. Heading off to university, college, or into the working world can generate mixed emotions for both students and parents, but with the right resources, the journey can be made a lot less painful.
Kathie Weaver is the Director of Operations at Reset Zone. She is a published poet who has a passion for writing and public speaking, along with her desire to help others. Kathie has worked in the corporate world for over 25 years in Payroll, Benefits, and Human Resources. She now finds herself in a new and exciting career at Reset Zone!